Over the last almost 10 years of working with people and money, I have experienced and witnessed so many different things. Different money attitudes and beliefs, different financial situations – good, bad and especially the “I want that client’s financial portfolio”, different goals and objectives, and certainly varying forms of financial fear.
You have all heard “The rich get rich and the poor get poorer and the middle-class struggle in debt”, right?
Why does it work that way?
First, rich people have a different mindset. They view money differently than most people do. They talk about it differently, they use it differently, money is a different game to them altogether.
Second, rich people are more financially literate. They are eager to learn more about it and they have a whole team working with them to manage it from financial people like myself, to accountants and lawyers. Don’t be fooled in believing that they do it themselves. Not even Warren Buffet or Bill Gates manage their finances alone.
The gap between the rich, middle class, and poor happens because the subject of money is taught at home and not in schools. I often hear, “I wish I would have learned that in school!” In fact, if I had a dollar for every time I heard that, I would be rich already! But schools are designed to teach scholastic and professional skills, not money skills. That leaves us with learning our financial skills from our parents.
If your parents are among the rich, then lucky you! You are being passed down a financial mindset, financial literacy and a financial team to help you get ahead faster in life. And by rich, I mean, have more than a few million in assets, cash flow, and are at least in the top 5%.
For the rest of you, which is where the majority of people fit – 95%, you are learning from your parents the exact same mindsets as your parents. It’s not that your parents are trying to hurt you or that you as a parent are trying to hurt your kid, this is just the way it works. The following phrases are likely something you have heard your parents say, or you have said, at some point in your life, if not recently. It’s time to change that.
Here are 3 things that will help you change your financial situation today:
1. Stop saying “I can’t afford it” and start saying “How can I afford it?” Everyone is guilty of this and I hear it way too often. By saying “How can I afford it?”, you put your brain to work. It doesn’t mean you should buy everything you want; it means you are starting to think of ways to do it and you are exercising your brain. By saying “I can’t afford it”, you are automatically shutting down any creativity and problem solving skills. It’s a sign of laziness. Just like working out and eating healthy increases your chance of health, proper mental exercise increases your chance of wealth.
2. Stop saying “I’m poor” and start saying “I’m broke” instead and even go a little further to add, “I am rich”. Poor is an eternal state, whereas broke is a temporary situation and lots of extremely rich people have had periods of time when they were broke.
3. Stop saying “The reason I’m not rich is because I have you kids” and start saying “The reason I must be rich is because I have you kids”. Interestingly enough, I am guilty of saying the first one and only thinking the second one. Words are so powerful and we need to choose them wisely.
Positive thinking alone and choosing your words correctly are only the beginning of fixing your current financial situation. There is education and action as well. Financial literacy is at an all time low. Outside of our parents, it is taught by the banks and the government and they are way too corrupt to be teaching people about money. This explains the why the majority of people’s financial situations are what they are.
Money is only one form of power and security. Financial education is much more powerful. Money comes and goes, but if you know how money works, you gain power over it and can begin building wealth.